Welcome multiple viewpoints
Speak from your own experience by using “I statements.” Ask questions to
understand the sources of disagreements.
Own your intentions and your impacts. Respect each other’s experiences and feelings by taking responsibility for the effects of your words. On the other side, if you have a strong reaction to something, let the
group know. Be open to dialogue.
Work to recognize your privileges
Use this space to recognize and investigate your privileges (for example: class, gender, sexual orientation, ability). Honor the different experiences we all bring to this
Take risks: Lean into discomfort
We are all in process. Challenge yourself to contribute even if it is not perfectly formulated.
Share speaking time and try to speak after others who have not spoken.
Notice and name group dynamics in the moment. We are all responsible for this space. Be aware of how others are responding or not responding. Ask for a “time out” or dialogue if needed.
Use your energy to listen to what is said before thinking about how to respond. Notice when defensiveness and denial arise.
Challenging with care
Find ways to respectfully challenge others and be open to challenges of your own views. Think about ho w to question ideas without personal attacks.
Share the message, not the messenger.
Break it down
Use simple language and background information when necessary. Ask for clarification if needed.