“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is… if you don’t risk everything, you risk even more.”
— Erica Jong
“I failed at being a couple, but you don’t have to be a couple to participate in the couple form. You can watch movies about couples, you can listen to songs about them, you can watch them fuck on the internet. In fact there is nothing else to do. There must be a secret sympathy or secret correspondence between people that mimics or exceeds or subtends the global correspondences set up by commodity production. Or maybe just because we mostly emerge from families, we carry the family inside us, vestigially, as the fascination of the couple. Otherwise I don’t know how it is that romantic love endures as an image, even as it fails as a practice.”
— Hannah Black, The Loves of Others
[Revision] is so much like what you do with the person you love – you come back to them again and again, and try to intuit their real expansiveness, you try to keep them close to you, you try to give them the benefit of the doubt… You can see revision as a form of active love… love in progress.
George Saunders, How to tell a good story
Sometimes love is a wound that opens and closes, open and closes, all our lives.
Claire Vaye Watkins, Battleborn
Tenderness is a deeper instinct than seduction, which is why it is so hard to give up hope.
Michel Houellebecq, The Elementary Particles
“Longing is the agony of the nearness of the distant.”
— Martin Heidegger, Who is Nietzsche’s Zarathustra