finding words where words were absent before and being able to share your deepest pain and deepest feelings with another human being —This is one of the most profound experiences we can have, and such resonance [is] fundamental to healing the isolation of trauma.
Communicating fully is the opposite of being traumatized.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
— Carl Jung
“I guess when you are young, you believe that you will meet many people with whom you'll connect with, but later in life you realize it only happens a few times.”
“I started living alone, vacuuming my apartment weekly, saving parmesan rinds for soup, calling to negotiate better rates for utilities. I became a better cook and friend, especially to myself. These specific tasks are not meant to demonstrate adulthood, the inane fantasy of the unrigorous that there is a finite level—based often on what you can afford to own and what that implies—at which no further acquisition of skills or growth is necessary. Rather, it’s to illustrate that I now live my life in a way that suggests I care to be in it. Naturally that desire transfers to other tasks, practices, and ways of relating––what I mean is that it transfers to love.” - lucy morris