Real time is slower than social-media time, where everything feels urgent. Real time often includes periods of silence, reflection, growth, space, self-forgiveness, processing with loved ones, rest, and responsibility.
you don't do things because you're good at them, or even with the aim of "getting good at them". it's all a process of slowly understanding, exploring and discovering the relationship you have with something. the goal is not to become like the others, but instead to discover yourself