“One does not love because one wishes to feel either happy or sad. One loves because one needs to be sensitive to the world, to see in it that which is lovable. Not to see it, not to be sensitive to it, is not a strength but a form of blindness.”
“The ability to ask beautiful questions, often in very unbeautiful moments, is one of the great disciplines of a human life. And a beautiful question starts to shape your identity as much by asking it as it does by having it answered. And you don’t have to do anything about it. You just have to keep asking. And before you know it, you will find yourself actually shaping a different life, meeting different people, finding conversations that are leading you in those directions that you wouldn’t even have seen before.”
— David Whyte, On Being interview “The Conversational Nature of Reality”
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”
It is good to be solitary, because solitude is difficult and that a thing which is difficult must be even more of a reason for us to undertake it. To love is good too, for love is difficult. For one person to care for another, that is perhaps the most difficult thing required of us, the utmost and final test, the work for which all other work is but a preparation.
To love is not about merging. It is a noble calling for the individual to ripen, to differentiate, to become a world in oneself in response to another… Only in this sense may we use the love that has been given to us… the love that consists of two solitudes that border, protect and greet each other.
Rainer Maria Rilke