“Sometimes while I ride the subway I try to look at each person and imagine what they look like to someone who is totally in love with them. I think everyone has had someone look at them that way, whether it was a lover, or a parent, or a friend, whether they know it or not. It’s a wonderful thing, to look at someone to whom I would never be attracted and think about what looking at them feels like to someone who is devouring every part of their image, who has invisible strings that are connected to this person tied to every part of their body. I think this fun pastime is a way of cultivating compassion. It feels good to think about people that way, and to use that part of my mind that I think is traditionally reserved for a tiny portion of people I’ll meet in my life to appreciate the general public. I wish I thought about people like this more often. I think it’s the opposite of what our culture teaches us to do. We prefer to pick people apart to find their flaws. Cultivating these feelings of love or appreciation for random people, and even for people I don’t like, makes me a more forgiving and appreciative person toward myself and people I love. Also, it’s just a really excellent pastime.”
What to do in 20s to avoid regrets in 30s and and 40s
Build the habit of eating healthily and exercising. Your body will thank you years later.
Choose who you spend your time with carefully. You'' be the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Understand that no one has it all figured out. Don't place unnecessary stress on yourself by believing that you should have everything set in stone.
Polish your communication skills, which will affect you for a lifetime.
Travel as much as you can. You'll never find it enough. If you have the opportunity to travel, seize it.