If a person is really into you they are up your ass and you are up theirs and then you live there together forever in flatulating bliss.
You will receive a body. You may like it or not but it is yours for the entire time you’re on Earth.
You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called “life.” Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.
There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much as the process as the experiment that ultimately works.
A lesson is repeated until it is learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. Then you can go on to the next lesson.
Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
“There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that is, again, better than “here.”
Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need – what you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
You will forget all this. You can remember whenever you want.
The best thing about the first sunny weekend of the year is realizing you’ve been sad for three months but just forgot.
What we need is a culture where the common experience of trauma leads to a normalization of healing.
One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will become someone else's survival guide
“When we experience trauma,” she says, “we regress to a more childlike place where we feel like things are out of our control.” That’s when we need to shift our focus away from tending to more sophisticated needs, like the satisfaction we get from adhering to a hyperproductive ideal, to something more basic. “You need to care for yourself like you’d care for a child, making them feel safe, cared for, and loved.”
“Many people theorize that depression, at its core, is a disease of social isolation,” she tells me on a recent phone call. “People who are depressed feel lonely and hopeless and want support,” but instead of seeking it out, they often enforce a kind of voluntary social distance, assuming they’re a burden or beyond helping. While depression may be triggered by a specific circumstance or trauma, this resulting withdrawal is what maintains and increases it. “Isolation can be viewed in a number of ways,” she says, “but it always involves depriving yourself of social reinforcement.”