恋の予感 / koi no yokan (Japanese) The feeling upon first meeting someone that you will inevitably fall in love with them. The premonition of love.
Fiery, passionate, world-shaking love gets the glory but i think it’s dangerous to say that love is less real if it’s not constantly exciting or intense or if it doesn’t feel like some inner natural disaster. I want fertile, nurturing, affirming, expansive love first before transient feeling. Love that could start a forest, love that starts life.
| Jett De Leon
“With you, intimacy colors my voice. Even ‘hello’ sounds like ‘come here’.”
— Warsan Shire
Let us say to one another: I am yours—
and know finally that we will only ever be
as much as we are willing to save of one another.
by Natalie Diaz, from Postcolonial Love Poem; “exhibits from The American Water Museum”
How to Create a Winning Relationship
Don’t rush things. Take the time to really get to know each other.
Focus on positivity rather than negativity. Getting angry quickly or being harsh and critical will undermine and ruin even strong relationships. In contrast, being kind and gentle will help develop love.
Appreciate the little things the other person does. Don’t overlook their efforts; don’t just expect their help.
Enjoy the ways you’re different – and not clones of one another. It makes things interesting (and creates healthy space).
Don’t get into a rut so that you’re bored when you’re together. Keeping doing something different, or keep trying something new.
Learn how to be listener, someone who’s understanding, and helps their partner open up and share what’s bothering them.
Be loyal and committed, so trust can be established - that helps you both feel safe, and it will grow a strong, deep love.
“We have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit because what was native has been stolen from us…but we can practice being gentle with each other by being gentle with that piece of ourselves that is hardest to hold.”
- Audre Lord