One could argue for a classist swerve in all this on my end—that my over-education is the problem. I was once told I use big words, which can be alienating. So now, I try not to use big words when I’m among people I don’t know well. Am I being inclusive or patronizing? I can’t tell. Big words can be precise in very particular ways, and lovers of language tend to love collecting words. But big words can also be used as tools to exclude and oppress. How do I get to be me?