life happens in stages.
a lot of the time, we don’t realize we have moved into the next stage until we are already there… like the book of life has moved into a new chapter, but we don’t notice until we’re a few pages in.
we’ve gotten older. we’ve matured in ways. maybe we’ve lost touch with people. maybe we’ve made new connections. moved. changed jobs. etc. etc. etc.
whenever this happens, it’s important to find quality time to re-familiarize yourself with yourself... who are you in this stage/next chapter of life?
we’re constantly changing. it’s a part of the human experience. if we don’t take note of how we are changing, we could find ourselves unsure about who we are and where we fit into the world.
it’s vulnerable to share who you are with the world. it’s vulnerable to share who you are with one person. it’s also vulnerable to share who you are with yourself, though… and that’s where we need to start.
a problem a lot of us have, is we share who we are in the wrong order.
-when we share who we are with the world first, we risk appearing ignorant.
-when we share who we are with one person first, we risk appearing insecure.
-when we share who we are with ourselves first, we risk being faced with some hard and uncomfortable feelings… but that’s just part of it.
those hard and uncomfortable feelings don’t mean we are on the wrong path… life doesn’t feel good all the time. it isn’t meant to. we are meant to have highs, we are meant to have lows. that’s just what moving forward looks like, and if that wasn’t the case, we would be stagnant.
i don’t wanna be stagnant.
My friend went on a tinder date recently and told me about it on a hike, & how the dude asked her something along the lines of "what do you want your old person hobby to be?"
i really like this question. it makes me think. still don't have an answer. will update.
Our task is not to return to an idealized past, or to fetishize and appropriate the cultures of Indigenous peoples. Rather it is to determine which aspects of the current dominant society bring us into conflict with the rest of the natural world, to identify the historical junctures out of which these characteristics arose, and to imagine alternative paths society could take.