In adulthood, Object Constancy allows us to trust that our bond with those who are close to us remains whole even when they are not physically present, picking up the phone, replying to our texts, or have become frustrated with us.  With Object Constancy, absence does not mean disappearance or abandonment, only temporary distance. People with a secure early attachment can locate a sense of trust from within themselves, rather than relying on constant reassurances from others. Yet people plagued with an intense fear of abandonment are the opposite.

been trying to maintain balance thru this transition season
everything around me felt like it's time was fleeting or it's space compressing

everything urgent for everyone, everyone needing anyone
and anyone is me—and only me

maybe that's an exaggeration
maybe my cancer placements jumped out
maybe that pressure was internal

really i need to stop feeling accountable or necessary for others (not all others, not always)
really i need to stop thinking and expecting to do everything on my own (most things? sure. everything? nah)
really i need to work on healthy confrontation and healthier communication (it's not easier saying nothing now and resenting everything always)

lemme give myself some credit tho:
i practiced way better patience than i might've ever had
i explored connections i would've previously written off
i better understand myself and positioning within relationships
i gained confidence in announcing my strengths, discovering new pain points, and identifying areas for improvement

starting to see the cycles in everything as the sun moves into libra once again—my circle of life aligns with the FY

growth feels unrecognizable to this time LY but KPIs don't lie
Q4 always tighter margins, lower moral, barely breaking even yet the annual projection is still always better than LY

Consider what happens when I am walking with a friend and am accosted by another friend with a long and sad story to tell. As I listen to the story, I give off all the conventional signs of sympathetic attention, but if an opportunity presents itself I may signal to the first friend with a gesture or glance that I am doing my best to end the conversation and will be rejoining him as soon as possible. Is my show of concern to my second friend's story, then, phony? Goffman insists that there is no valid sociological ground for assuming that my impatience in any way compromises my attentiveness, or vice versa. I am simply playing two roles to two audiences at the same time, as we all must do with surprising frequency. “All the world is not, of course, a stage,” he concedes at one point, then adds the characteristically Goffmanian punch line: “but the crucial ways in which it isn't are not easy to specify.”