• Do I learn new things from this person?
• Do they show me things about myself?
• Do they show up for me like I do for them?
• Do I feel held?
• Do I feel safe?
• Do I feel seen?
• Can I be my authentic self around them?
• Do they communicate efficiently?
• Does my inner child feel safe around them?
• Have they done their inner work? Or are they willing to do so?
• What is their experience of love previously? (this will affect how they love me)
• Does this connection nourish my soul or feed the ego?

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