What you do know is that you are human and therefore educable, and therefore capable of learning how to learn, and therefore interesting to God, who is interested only in Himself which is to say He is interested only in love. Do you understand me? God is not interested in you. He is interested in love and the bliss it brings to those who understand and share the interest. Couples that enter the sacrament of marriage and are not prepared to go the distance or are not willing to get right with the real love of God cannot thrive. They may cleave together like robins or gulls or anything else that mates for life. But if they eschew this mighty course, at the moment when all are judged for the disposition of their eternal lives, their cleaving won't mean a thing. God bless the pure and holy. Amen.

Desperation in romantic relationships can yield amazing sex, but sustainable it is not. Fear of scarcity makes us misers of the ones we love, and miserliness is the opposite of generosity. Real love, I have come to understand, is enacted as a practice of ongoing generosity.

This is a dynamic I have observed not only in love, but in all areas of life. I think fear of losing what we have almost always causes us to waste it, ultimately. It is hard to enjoy a blessing that is hoarded. I want to love as though there is an endless supply of love, as if by enacting it, I multiply it.