Once one has found a partner that accepts them for who they truly are, the objects of desires towards what's external to the relationship suddenly lessen. They never fully disappear, but they diminish in the way that new encounters do not feed anymore the illusion of being finally loved or accepted. Suddenly, these desires outside of the relationship become tools of creativity, fantasy, and love, instead of being an eternal quest for something bigger, more substantial, and more profound. Once this state of acceptance and peace has been reached, the remaining challenge is keeping up the spiritual balance of love, desire, and needs between two radically different entities.