We often find ourselves in apparently undesirable situations, or navigating apparently unpleasant experiences.
All experiences simultaneously hold a positive and negative side to them.
Reframing is a simple technique to "flip the coin" and transform those apparently negative experiences into positives. It scales up and down, from the banal to the esoteric or unbelievable. It's usually easy to find.
Waiting in a line, or the delay in delivery of a coveted new item offer moments to practice patience.
Missing out on your preference is an opportunity for discovering new preferences or paths.
An unwanted conversation can be grounds for developing your compassion, your study of the human face, verbal behaviors and habits, or your ability to steer and navigate discussion.
Negative professional outcomes can provide space for pause, reflection and learning, and so on.
“[When Vonnegut tells his wife he’s going out to buy an envelope] Oh, she says, well, you’re not a poor man. You know, why don’t you go online and buy a hundred envelopes and put them in the closet? And so I pretend not to hear her. And go out to get an envelope because I’m going to have a hell of a good time in the process of buying one envelope. I meet a lot of people. And, see some great looking babes. And a fire engine goes by. And I give them the thumbs up. And, and ask a woman what kind of dog that is. And, and I don’t know. The moral of the story is, is we’re here on Earth to fart around. And, of course, the computers will do us out of that. And, what the computer people don’t realize, or they don’t care, is we’re dancing animals. You know, we love to move around. And, we’re not supposed to dance at all anymore.”
Try to establish a new baseline: in which everything you know and believe is wrong until proven right.
By inverting the default assumptions about your beliefs & knowledge, you:
Place the burden of proof onto yourself, not others.
Let go of possessiveness
Reorient your identity away from your beliefs, opening your mind,
Accept that knowledge, information and belief are fluid.
Have less reason to put forward your point of view, encouraging you to simply listen.
Can express yourself in probabilities, not absolutes.
Just become more chill.