Start your days with one small win.
Making your bed, going on a walk, or drinking a glass of water are all small accomplishments that can build up confidence in our ability to tackle larger & more difficult problems.
A few small wins early, then momentum follows. Making the first step is sometimes the simplest, and most impactful action we can take.
Become comfortable with the fact that you have needs. It's OK to need. It means you're human. You have to develop an internal language of need which allows you to see your own dependency graph clearly. It is only when we are comfortable with our own state of neediness that we can communicate it clearly and honestly to others without projecting the expectation that they will necessarily satisfy us. Here, in truth, is the rock bottom foundation of all courageous, honest, horizontal, long-term conversations.
What this means is that a “bad feeling” is not evidence that there is something wrong. It just means you are taxing your body budget. Emotions are real, but what they seem to be telling you is not necessarily real. Knowing that “negative” emotions are simply our brain’s way of telling us that reserves are running low, we can make intentional decisions to refill those reserves, instead of reaching for less healthy coping mechanisms.