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"Resonance is feeling understood. It is improvization, banter, a jamming session. You’re playing music with others and they are building on it.

But isn’t the goal enlightenment? Going to the hills and meditating? The point of meditating in the hills is to feel oneness with humanity; in fact, oneness with everything. You feel a similar oneness when you laugh at a friend’s joke or they laugh at yours.

When two people work on a shared project – a joke, a product, an essay, a story – and are able to understand and build on each other, that’s the peak of the human condition.

Resonance is being in flow state but with another person.

To find resonance, you need to create. Creation is an act of tapping a tuning fork and seeing who resonates. Creation is the risk. Resonance is the reward.

We are alone in our minds. At best, we can describe what we feel using symbols and objects. We feel resonance only when we somehow convert those symbols and objects into something authentic and understandable to another person. It’s magical when it works.

Creation helps you find friends, partners, and collaborators. Some people build rockets and attract people who resonate with a civilization on Mars. But all creation need not be intimidating. Sending your friend a funny meme counts.

There is at least one person out there who wants this specific version of you – your current state of mind, feelings, and interests. Creation helps you find that person."

The Goal is Resonance
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"This season marks the beginning of a concerted effort to eliminate the unnecessary. [...] this means a greatly reduced collection, [...] less looks, less product. The collection arrives without a title, garments and eventually the wearer, defining meaning in its place."
 
"CLARITY BECOMES KEY."

About AW20 and minimalism (2020)
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A part of yourself is completely unexplored till you meet a particular person or go to a particular place.

"For the erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing. Once we know the extent to which we are capable of feeling that sense of satisfaction and completion, we can then observe which of our various life endeav-
ors brings us closest to that fullness."

the uses of the erotic p.88

Each friend represents a world in us, a world that is possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only in that encounter that a new world can emerge. – Anaïs Nin

“I started living alone, vacuuming my apartment weekly, saving parmesan rinds for soup, calling to negotiate better rates for utilities. I became a better cook and friend, especially to myself. These specific tasks are not meant to demonstrate adulthood, the inane fantasy of the unrigorous that there is a finite level—based often on what you can afford to own and what that implies—at which no further acquisition of skills or growth is necessary. Rather, it’s to illustrate that I now live my life in a way that suggests I care to be in it. Naturally that desire transfers to other tasks, practices, and ways of relating––what I mean is that it transfers to love.” - lucy morris

Good writing is an illustion: what people call good writing is actually good thinking, and of course good thinkers are rare

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It’s okay to say, “it’s not for you,” to most people. In fact, that’s the only way to do work that matters.

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