"Resonance is feeling understood. It is improvization, banter, a jamming session. You’re playing music with others and they are building on it.

But isn’t the goal enlightenment? Going to the hills and meditating? The point of meditating in the hills is to feel oneness with humanity; in fact, oneness with everything. You feel a similar oneness when you laugh at a friend’s joke or they laugh at yours.

When two people work on a shared project – a joke, a product, an essay, a story – and are able to understand and build on each other, that’s the peak of the human condition.

Resonance is being in flow state but with another person.

To find resonance, you need to create. Creation is an act of tapping a tuning fork and seeing who resonates. Creation is the risk. Resonance is the reward.

We are alone in our minds. At best, we can describe what we feel using symbols and objects. We feel resonance only when we somehow convert those symbols and objects into something authentic and understandable to another person. It’s magical when it works.

Creation helps you find friends, partners, and collaborators. Some people build rockets and attract people who resonate with a civilization on Mars. But all creation need not be intimidating. Sending your friend a funny meme counts.

There is at least one person out there who wants this specific version of you – your current state of mind, feelings, and interests. Creation helps you find that person."

“I started living alone, vacuuming my apartment weekly, saving parmesan rinds for soup, calling to negotiate better rates for utilities. I became a better cook and friend, especially to myself. These specific tasks are not meant to demonstrate adulthood, the inane fantasy of the unrigorous that there is a finite level—based often on what you can afford to own and what that implies—at which no further acquisition of skills or growth is necessary. Rather, it’s to illustrate that I now live my life in a way that suggests I care to be in it. Naturally that desire transfers to other tasks, practices, and ways of relating––what I mean is that it transfers to love.” - lucy morris