how [do] we feel when we exchange, and ultimately, what is the meaning and purpose of our togetherness?
how have we learned to love, and does it actually work? it's become clear to me in relationships that the proclamation becomes less important than the inquiry. to use some bachelor nation language, can i see myself falling in love with you? am i in love with you? do i love you? those questions become: do you feel loved in this moment? do you feel loved by me? when i feel i love you and i present x, y, or z stimuli as an expression or labor of that love, does it reach you? what is the feeling of my love and how, when, and where can it support you in becoming?
— Mandy Harris Williams
descriptive, detailed love.
"i love you, so i—"
what are the things that i do to make you feel love, and how can i do more of them? does love work a little bit like its own hierarchy of needs? perhaps "food" and "shelter" and "how do i keep you safe" are base concerns for being a lover? that the people we say i love you to should be people who we can, at the least, strategize in community with to deliver security in those things? what are your needs under capitalism and how do i make your survival more or less viable such that you are able to be available to these loftier loves?
—Mandy Harris Williams
Imagine trusting your body so much, that the ebb and flow of your energy levels are never a cause for alarm, but more a cause to embrace the natural variety that your own body expresses into the world. Trusting that your fallow periods would be followed by periods of doing, simply because it is in your nature to ebb and flow.
"As a cultural worker who belongs to an oppressed people my job is to make revolution irresistible. One of the ways I attempt to do that is by celebrating those victories within the Black community. And I think the mere fact that we’re still breathing is a cause for celebration."
Toni Cade Bambara
“If a person cannot solve a conflict with a friend, how can they possibly contribute to larger efforts for peace? If we refuse to speak to a friend because we project our anxieties onto an email they wrote, how are we going to welcome refugees, immigrants, and the homeless into our communities? The values required for social repair are the same values required for personal repair. And so this discussion must begin in the most micro experience. Confusing being mortal with being threatened can occur in any realm. The fact that something could go wrong does not mean that we are in danger. It means that we are alive. Mortality is the sign of life.”