People often ask me for advice about leaving cities, careers, or relationships that don’t feel right, and while I’m still a believer in listening to gut feelings, I’m becoming more open to the idea that perception can shift without seismic uprooting, that big life changes don’t always change us, and that, more than anything else, we will always be ourselves. In that vein, I think it’s worth asking yourself: What makes you happiest as you are now? Because no matter where you go, that will likely never change.

— Grandma, how to do deal with pain?

— With your hands, honey. If you do it with your mind in place to relieve the pain, it becomes even harder.

— With our hands grandma?

— Yes. Our hands are the antennae of our soul. If you move them by weaving, cooking, painting, playing, or sinking them into the ground, you send signals of care to the deepest part of you. And your soul lights up because you are paying attention to it. Then the pain signals will no longer be necessary.

— Are hands really that important?

— Yes, my daughter. Think of babies: they begin to know the world thanks to the touch of their little hands. If you look at the hands of old people, they tell you more about their life than any other part of the body. Everything that is made by hand is said to be made with the heart. Because it is really like that: the hands and the heart are connected.

Masseurs know it well: when they touch the body of another person with their hands they create a deep connection.

It is precisely from this connection that he comes to healing.

Think of lovers: when they touch hands, they make love in a more sublime way.

— My hands grandma ... how long have I not used them like this!

— Move them, my love, start creating with them and everything within you will move. The pain will not pass. And instead what you do with them will become the most beautiful masterpiece. And it won't hurt anymore. Because you will have been able to transform its essence.