Everybody who knows me says I’m smiling a lot more

She was very clear about her ability to say ‘No’ and I learned from her what a clear no meant: it meant you could trust her ‘Yes’ in a way I had never experienced.

it’s not advice, it’s an observation

The emotional landscape of trauma is inhospitable to nuance or the simultaneous truths that characterize our lives

made to feel like they caused harm to others by simply sharing their stories and asking to be heard