1. Confidentiality (don't attach people's names or identifiers).
  2. Speak for oneself.
  3. Do not discount or minimize another’s experience.
  4. Ask follow up questions: seek greater understanding and clarity if you need more information.
  5. Be accountable to your own thinking and ideas (devil’s advocate is a way of distancing yourself fromaccountability; if you disagree be honest but avoid debating/arguing for the sake of arguing).
  6. Avoid philosophizing/theorizing people’s lived experiences.
  7. Listen with a willingness to be influenced.
  8. Notice and interrupt when you are taking the path of least resistance (playing it safe)
  9. Notice when/why you are experiencing blame, guilt, and defensiveness.
  10. Be mindful that being uncomfortable is not the same as being oppressed.
  11. Being privy to in-group disclosure knowledge is a gift and not to be shared, used for personal gain, orused as access or membership to that group.
  12. This community belongs to all of us (don't rely on professors for all the leadership).
  13. Be intentional and engaged (no coasting).
  14. Be mindful of space - and how you take up space - (extroversion, privileged identities). Show yourpeers the same level of attention and respect you want and expect.
  15. Share to share and not to persuade (self-management).
  16. Keep in mind people don't know what they don't know - don't judge.
  17. Unlearning is as important as learning.
  18. Be mindful of our own identity development (see Tatum).
  19. If/When someone reveals something personal, and you are interested in learning more about them,the sharer can respond in at least 3 different ways: 1: they say yes, and share with the class; 2: they sayyes and share with the you outside of class/personally; 3: they say no, and leave it at that. For thequestioner, why are you asking? Is it to learn more for yourself? Is it for gossip/just wanting to knowmore?
  20. Keep it authenticious.

Walter, Davis, & Corleoni, 2017