- Confidentiality (don't attach people's names or identifiers).
- Speak for oneself.
- Do not discount or minimize another’s experience.
- Ask follow up questions: seek greater understanding and clarity if you need more information.
- Be accountable to your own thinking and ideas (devil’s advocate is a way of distancing yourself fromaccountability; if you disagree be honest but avoid debating/arguing for the sake of arguing).
- Avoid philosophizing/theorizing people’s lived experiences.
- Listen with a willingness to be influenced.
- Notice and interrupt when you are taking the path of least resistance (playing it safe)
- Notice when/why you are experiencing blame, guilt, and defensiveness.
- Be mindful that being uncomfortable is not the same as being oppressed.
- Being privy to in-group disclosure knowledge is a gift and not to be shared, used for personal gain, orused as access or membership to that group.
- This community belongs to all of us (don't rely on professors for all the leadership).
- Be intentional and engaged (no coasting).
- Be mindful of space - and how you take up space - (extroversion, privileged identities). Show yourpeers the same level of attention and respect you want and expect.
- Share to share and not to persuade (self-management).
- Keep in mind people don't know what they don't know - don't judge.
- Unlearning is as important as learning.
- Be mindful of our own identity development (see Tatum).
- If/When someone reveals something personal, and you are interested in learning more about them,the sharer can respond in at least 3 different ways: 1: they say yes, and share with the class; 2: they sayyes and share with the you outside of class/personally; 3: they say no, and leave it at that. For thequestioner, why are you asking? Is it to learn more for yourself? Is it for gossip/just wanting to knowmore?
- Keep it authenticious.
Walter, Davis, & Corleoni, 2017