keep loving something when you really know it is always the challenge. (Anthony de Mello: I don’t say that adoration isn’t important, but I do say that doubt is infinitely more important than adoration.) We are never in love with actual people, we are only in love with our ideas of people. To accept the reality as more beautiful than the idea takes real love and real awareness. We prove it through continuity, through recurrence—through the long slog.