Tips n Trix
@trixietheepixie
I let go of the internet telling me it's okay not to want to love black men and boys and I've been able to talk with the black men and boys in my life about the pain that they caused precisely because I choose to see them as teachable (children) and redeemable (adults)this is not me agreeing with this quote (because one thing about me, Imma let the hand go). but it is hard to wrestle with loving black men (especially your family/those you hold dear) and how patriarchy shows up in those relationships. :)
I know we don't like belcalis hooks on here, but in Will To Change she talks about the grief of finding black men to be insufficient for us and a lot of us just feel sad that we don't want them around. I dug deep and healed that wound. SW changed that for me so much +
When my coin was dependent on figuring out what they needed and that money started to pay for my own freedom from capitalist structures (i.e. stuff like SW being immediate pay and not waiting for 2 weeks), shit hit different.
When I was outcast WITH men because we shared the same spaces that academic black women hated because SW goes against #blacklove. Shit got real different.
Because if you ask some of your mutuals on here, I too -- am a danger to "good" black women and families.
Even though my work, both academic and otherwise is explicitly for us. What folks decide to reduce me to is what they reduce me to.
10:41 PM · May 23, 2023
I let go of the internet telling me it's okay not to want to love black men and boys and I've been able to talk with the black men and boys in my life about the pain that they caused precisely because I choose to see them as teachable (children) and redeemable (adults)this is not me agreeing with this quote (because one thing about me, Imma let the hand go). but it is hard to wrestle with loving black men (especially your family/those you hold dear) and how patriarchy shows up in those relationships. :)
I know we don't like belcalis hooks on here, but in Will To Change she talks about the grief of finding black men to be insufficient for us and a lot of us just feel sad that we don't want them around. I dug deep and healed that wound. SW changed that for me so much +
When my coin was dependent on figuring out what they needed and that money started to pay for my own freedom from capitalist structures (i.e. stuff like SW being immediate pay and not waiting for 2 weeks), shit hit different.
When I was outcast WITH men because we shared the same spaces that academic black women hated because SW goes against #blacklove. Shit got real different.
Because if you ask some of your mutuals on here, I too -- am a danger to "good" black women and families.
Even though my work, both academic and otherwise is explicitly for us. What folks decide to reduce me to is what they reduce me to.