One of the things I suggest to people is that they watch themselves as if they do not understand who they are or what they are ruled by and notice those times they're where they should be.
You'll see there are times in your life where you're somewhere or you've done something and all the sudden you're together. You're where you should be, your conscience is not disturbing you. You're not proud of what you did because pride is not the right term but you understand deeply that you've done something that you should have done. You might not understand why, you might not even understand what it is... but the study of that can help elucidate the difference between what actually constitutes you, which is a very difficult thing to discover, and what constitutes the accretion that characterizes you because of your intense proclivity for social mimicry.