we don't know people, we know our image of them. and, if we can't have them in our life anymore, we're only left with this image, only qualities we knew or even wanted them to have but they didn't. mostly.

loving someone is about opening up and accepting. we need to let people be themselves and observe them rather than
draw conclusions. we need to listen.
and even then we may be left with their own image of themselves, not true them.

it's no good clinging to those you've lost. no good in bringing them back. the one is the original one, you can't replicate them perfectly. you may get everything you loved about them, but actually we love the imperfections and stuff you don't expect to get from them too, the fact that they're independent and
incomprehensible, not just this image.