This is maybe related to care. I’m very against this give-take binary in care because it never fucking works like that. And I also like to reframe care as not being this scarcity or this precarious place. I like thinking of it more as the luxury of our needs. Needs and dependencies, interdependencies, have historically been seen as deficits. Like, oh, if I give my time to you to take care of you, I lose those hours, or I lose that labor, and you owe me now. It’s a scarcity arrangement. But for anyone who has been lucky enough to be part of a crip family and experience mutual aid and communal care, it’s fucking abundant and wealthy and luxurious. We’re all just helping each other and supporting each other’s glorious needs and lives and bodies. It’s like, Oh, you need a ramp, we’ll get you a ramp! Not in a way of like, ugh, this bitch needs a ramp, how are we going to afford that? It’s not like that when you’re in an actual community of care. It feels abundant; care can just happen. It doesn’t cost you or drain you. It’s beautiful and intimate and there’s so much of it. Everyone is talking right now about how much COVID is going to cost, the cost of care, the poor economy. To me, it’s a mistake to think of care as being a deficit, or a thing of scarcity.
- Johanna Hedva, Future Present: Talking with Johanna Hedva About the Luxury of Our Needs