You think that your relationship will improve once particular stressful issues like money, parenting, or sex, "get resolved." But it's actually the other way around. You'll be able to tackle tough issues only after your relationship improves. You must change your usual approach, your dance, your bad deal.
The Fifth Losing Strategy: Withdrawal
You can withdraw from the entire relationship, drifting further and further apart.
You can withdraw from specific aspects of the relationship - stop sharing your feelings, stop sharing yourself physically, so that one or more of the five areas of intimacy starts to dry up between you and your partner.
Everybody in their lives is really waiting for people to ask them questions, so that they can be truthful about who they are and how they became what they are.
It's no wonder we lose our sense of self as we get more and more entrenched in the complexities of life over time. We become increasingly distracted from our own inner knowing.