As Mark Weiser wrote in 1993, “A good tool is an invisible tool… you focus on the task, not the tool.” Instead of “Oh, a new Instagram notification,” the calm technology version would allow you to think, “I want to check in with my friends.”
Ursula K. Le Guin said that we don't just naturally know how to create our destinies. It takes research and hard work. "All of us have to learn how to invent our lives, make them up, imagine them," she wrote. "We need to be taught these skills; we need guides to show us how. If we don't, our lives get made up for us by other people."