With incessant self-work—whether it’s weekly therapy or horoscopes or daily tarot readings or scouring self-help instagram or books—there’s a sense that you’re trying to milk the universe for insight. But the universe is not your cow, over whom you have dominion. The universe is your mother, over whom you have no control but do possess a strong influence. She will feed you when she decides it’s time—or when you cry powerfully—out of love and care for you. But you cannot bring the breast to your mouth yourself, for you are ultimately completely dependent.
“Research has to go through a body; it has to be lived in some sense—transformed into some sort of lived experience—in order to become whatever we might call art. . . . A lot of art now just points at things. Merely the transfer of something into a gallery is enough to bracket it as art.”
"Healing is like a spiral staircase leading you deeper into yourself. You may find yourself circling the same views, the same dramas, the same reactions at different points in your life with a slightly different perspective. This can be the catalyst for change."
“…your solitude will be a support and a home for you, even in the midst of very unfamiliar circumstances, and from it you will find all your paths.”
There's a point, around the age of twenty, when you have to choose whether to be like everybody else the rest of your life, or to make a virtue of your peculiarities.
Ursula K. Le Guin
Ursula K. Le Guin said that we don't just naturally know how to create our destinies. It takes research and hard work. "All of us have to learn how to invent our lives, make them up, imagine them," she wrote. "We need to be taught these skills; we need guides to show us how. If we don't, our lives get made up for us by other people."