"The problem is that we’ve made “love” into a game of escapism, and measure potential partners by how they fit into that fantasy. That’s not love."
Profound friendship is a form of love. It's finding ways of being in each other's lives without feeling attached, unbound to classifications and qualifiers. I appreciate fluid senses of belonging and being in the presence of others. This type of friendship is possible when people think of each other with deep kindness and treat each other gently, forgiving each others mistakes and always thinking of their best intentions. There's a common misunderstanding that love is about finding someone, that you need someone to be in love. I think that's not true. Loving yourself as you are, is always the most fundamental lesson to learn from a relationship.