Levels of a conversation
The subject matter
Mood and emotion
How people are feeling
What people hope to get out of the conversation
How people see and create assumptions about each other
When Japanese people feel another’s kindness toward them and see someone’s warm-hearted feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, they appreciate that person’s omoiyari. Its primary meaning is “an individual’s sensitivity to imagine another’s feelings and personal affairs, including his or her circumstances”
When I realized this, I grabbed onto it like a life raft, and I haven’t let go. This is real. The living, breathing bodies in this room are real. I am not an avatar, a set of preferences, or some smooth cognitive force. I’m lumpy, I’m an animal, I hurt sometimes, and I’m different one day to the next. I hear, I see, and I smell things that hear, see, and smell me. And it can take a break to remember that, a break to do nothing, to listen, to remember what we are and where we are.