Most men spare themselves this trouble by keeping their minds on the small problems of their lives just as their society maps these problems out for them. These are what Kierkegaard called the "immediate" men and the "Philistines." They "tranquilize themselves with the trivial"- and so they can lead normal lives.

"Trauma, in some ways, is resistance to grief. Genuine grieving is the opposite of trauma." — Gabor Maté