"Have a “shutdown ritual.” Write down worries and make a plan for tomorrow. Work is over. Turn weeknights into weekends. Weekends are happier because of time with friends. So see friends. Not hard. Mastery, not TV. Hobbies make you happier. Spend nights getting awesome at something. Wind down, don’t collapse. No screens. No coffee. No skydiving. Never go to bed angry with your partner. Kiss and make up. And kiss. And kiss some more. Write down the good stuff that happened. Force your brain to think about the good and life will be good. Schedule something to look forward to. Anticipation is like 401K matching for happiness. Double the happies."
But when you’ve loved someone, some version of it lasts. It keeps being important. It lives somewhere within you, and in that way, you carry the people you’ve loved along with you, not just in your memories, but in the person you are.