To every desire, wish, want, need, goal, longing, decision, path:
“And what would that get me?”
“And then, what would that get me?”
“And that?”
Go until you get to the feeling you’re after, then begin to practice feeling that as much as you can. Notice what allows it, what makes it valent, what blocks it. Notice how much you might be able to choose to feel it without requiring certain experiences too. Live toward the feeling you want, and most of the rest will work out just fine.