Become a sun and everyone will see you.
∆ Fyodor Dostoevsky, Crime and Punishment
To perceive another person accurately requires the ability to perceive the person as a pattern unfolding coherently through time, as a potential realizing itself. Carl Rogers' insight was that one's awareness of being perceived in this way encourages the unfolding of potentials.
Ch'ien (Heaven) / firmness, creativity, strength, force, power
Tui (Lake) / joy, openness, pleasure, satisfaction, excess
Li (Fire) / illuminating, clarity, intelligence, dependence, attachment
Chen (Thunder) / arousing, movement, activity, shock, growth
Sun (Wind) / gentle effects, small efforts, penetrating work
K'an (Water) mysterious, profound, meaningful, dangerous, difficult
Ken (Mountain) / still, resting, meditating, tranquil, immobile
K'un (Earth) / yielding, receptive, responsive, devoted, submissive
Each person’s self is spread out among many people, simulated in all their brains at varying levels of granularity. And each person has a different “self” for each one of the people he knows, and a different self for every social context. A teenager has a very different way of behaving, speaking and thinking around his friends from the way he behaves, speaks, and thinks around his grandparents. The self at work is different from the self at home with close friends, or in bed with a spouse. And none of these are the “true self” – rather, the self exists in all these, and in the transitions between them. There can never be one single, public self; to collapse all these multiple selves together would be akin to social death.
⚘ Sarah Perry, “The Essence of Peopling”
The Real Work
It may be that when we no longer know what to do
we have come to our real work,
and that when we no longer know which way to go
we have come to our real journey.
The mind that is not baffled is not employed.
The impeded stream is the one that sings.
I am no longer searching,
No longer trying to make sense of pain,
but trying to be a soft and sturdy home
in which real things can land.