"If we start with the first revelation of the Other as a look, we must recognise that we experience our in-apprehensible being-for-others in the form of a possession. I am possessed by the Other; the Other's look fashions my body in its nakedness, causes it to be born, sculptures it, produced it as it is, sees it as I shall never see it. The Other holds a secret - the secret of what I am. "

"I direct my look upon the Other who is looking at me. But a look can not be looked at. As soon as I look in the direction of the look it disappears, and I no longer see anything but eyes."