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When you break something, you must study the pattern of the shattering before you can piece it back together.
Akwaeke Emezi, Freshwater

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always remember that love will always come back to u. in a different form, different person, different hobby, different touch. but in any way, love will always come back.

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Seeing beyond duality
The reason why we feel lack when experiencing someone else’s abundance is because we see relationships in terms of duality.
However, it’s possible to leave that paradigm. Here’s what happens when you do:

  • You stop thinking about love in quantifiable terms (The question of “do you love her more than me?” stops existing, and hierarchization tendencies might stop making sense);
  • You stop treating love as a zero-sum game, where someone loving someone else makes them love you any less;
  • You no longer let your emotions affect your logical thinking (“Just because I feel hurt, it doesn’t mean that I am less than I was before — it actually makes me stronger”);
  • You start seeing your relationships as opportunities to create, rather than obsessively trying to “fix” things;
  • You love every single bit of life all the same — pleasant or unpleasant, big or small, unexpected or certain.

The way to escape non-duality in your relationships is by practicing gratitude for everything that you already have in your partner as an individual, and in the relationship you have created together.

"Why do you stay in prison
when the door is so wide open?

Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking.
Live in silence.

Flow down and down in always widening rings of being."

-Rumi

Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I’d like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You can’t disappoint me.

Mary Haskell in a letter to Kahlil Gibr…
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