“The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the objects it loves.”
How to show up more, and show up sincerely: reframe commitment as a gift.
Davis says that there are three fears that seem to account for why we can’t commit ourselves to one thing: the fear of regret (worrying that we’ll later regret not committing to something else), the fear of association (worrying over how it will affect our identity, reputation, and sense of control), and the fear of missing out (worrying that “the responsibilities that come with it will prevent us from being everything, everywhere, with everyone”).
There’s good news, though. “On the other side of these fears are great gifts,” Davis says. “On the other side of the fear of regret is the freedom of purpose, on the other side of the fear of association is the comfort of community, and on the other side of the fear of missing out is the joy of depth. These are what await you if you are ready to commit. To remain commitment-less is not a gift to your future self — it’s a denial to your future self the delights of purpose, community, and depth.”