Compatibility, ultimately, is an achievement of love. It isn't, can't, and shouldn't be its precondition. Therefore, the notion that we can only really get together with somebody when we've found someone who matches us entirely -- the person who is right isn't the person who agrees and condones every aspect of our characters; it's somebody who negotiates the differences between two people in a particular way, with a particular generosity, and sometimes humor.
Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I’d like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You can’t disappoint me.
What I want from the river is what I always want / to be held by a stronger thing that, in the end, chooses mercy.
∆ Oliver Baez Bendorf, “Advantages of Being Evergreen” (Cleveland State University Poetry Center, 2019)