Compatibility, ultimately, is an achievement of love. It isn't, can't, and shouldn't be its precondition. Therefore, the notion that we can only really get together with somebody when we've found someone who matches us entirely -- the person who is right isn't the person who agrees and condones every aspect of our characters; it's somebody who negotiates the differences between two people in a particular way, with a particular generosity, and sometimes humor.
Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I’d like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You can’t disappoint me.
7 aesthetic principles for achieving wabi-sabi:
Fukinsei: asymmetry, irregularity;
Koko: basic, weathered;
Shizen: without pretense, natural;
Yugen: subtly profound grace, not obvious;
Datsuzoku: unbounded by convention, free;
Seijaku: tranquility amongst chaos