You’re not constrained by your past behaviour or by other people’s perceptions of you.

In the wrong light anyone can look like a darkness.

the four elements of true love

> maitri: loving kindness (the desire to offer happiness)
> karuna: compassion (the desire to remove suffering from the other person)
> mudita: joy (the desire to bring joy to people around you, and allowing their happiness to bring you joy)
> *upeksha: equanimity (the desire to accept everything and not to discriminate)

Be silent in a group of people for a long time and see what each of them projects onto you, how they see you even though you gave them nothing.
You can understand a lot by silence, how universe reflects and deflects itself onto you.
Who you are and who you become depending on who sees you.

“What is remembering? Remembering brings the absent into the present, connects what is lost to what is here. Remembering draws attention to lostness and is made possible by emotions of space that open backward into a void. Memory depends on void, as void depends on memory, to think it. Once void is thought, it can be cancelled. Once memory is thought, it can be commodified.”
— Anne Carson, Economy of the Unlost

The Sage is occupied with the unspoken
and acts without effort.
Teaching without verbosity,
producing without possessing,
creating without regard to result,
claiming nothing,
the Sage has nothing to lose.