lack of self-awareness spreads trauma like wildfire
many of our “toxic” behaviors are trauma cycles and if we are unaware of this, we will repeat these patterns because they are all that we know (they are our definition of “safe”).
but awareness gives us more time to intervene. to create new patterns. (you can’t change what you can’t see). there is a step of reflection. ideally this step will come in between the trigger and our reaction; however, when beginning this work, the reflection might be after or during our reaction.
there is no right or wrong in healing from trauma. there is only trying. giving effort to break old cycles and implement new ones. to put a space between ourselves, our triggers, and our reactions. not a space of numbness, but a space of awareness, compassion, and patience.
a space to feel what was never allowed to be felt before. a space to dream up a new ending that has yet to play out in your personal reality.