"It’s so thoroughly modern to see people you don’t actually see anymore. So brutally modern that people are everywhere and nowhere in you life, which is a series of online accounts now. It’s hard on the heart, or it’s hard on mine. We’ve gotten so good at not really showing up for anyone anymore. At stalling. At missing our chances. At not actually being anywhere with anyone at any time. In the movies, more than anything, people want to be known. But in real life, people are willing to remain inscrutable."
Instagrammable is a term that does not mean “beautiful” or even quite “photogenic”; it means something more like “readable.”
“the ceaseless grooming and optimizing of ordinary life stands in the way of finding out how else we could spend our attention and our energy.”