i feel maybe we should redefine what being a hopeless romantic means. not exclusive to romantic relationships but someone who continues to choose love in all aspects of their life. love as trying again, compassion, gratitude etc.
I think of a relationship like a spiderweb, something that can look very diaphanous and tender, but that’s actually extremely strong because of the material, because of the time, because of the energy that was put into it. I love the idea of webbing. It doesn’t have to be a solid thing that we’re creating with relationships. It has to be something that is just as thick as it needs to be to hold this particular group up. A web allows things to fall through, like a sieve. Some things are not meant to be caught. The things that are meant to be caught and held will nourish us.
keep loving something when you really know it is always the challenge. (Anthony de Mello: I don’t say that adoration isn’t important, but I do say that doubt is infinitely more important than adoration.) We are never in love with actual people, we are only in love with our ideas of people. To accept the reality as more beautiful than the idea takes real love and real awareness. We prove it through continuity, through recurrence—through the long slog.
nourish your already existing connections.
make your love known to them, intentionally.
basis of community is love.
love is attention.