experiential approach! ~> distancing myself from interactions that are evocative of past experiences where my needs for comfort & security were not met + leaning in & putting more effort into building relationships with people who do provide me with love and support, no matter how counter-intuitive the process seems to be
But when you really look at it, when you are your most comfortable self—at dinner with friends for example—you have all that stuff. You have the charisma; you have the gestures; you have the way of words.
‘The self does not lie passively in wait for us to discover it. Selfhood is made in the active, ongoing process… The enduring nature of being made human is to turn into something else’- John Kagg
to overcome imposter syndrome, have confidence in your depth of curiosity rather than your expertise.
In order to be born, you needed:
16 second great-grandparents
32 third great-grandparents
64 fourth great-grandparents
128 fifth great-grandparents
256 sixth great-grandparents
512 seventh great-grandparents
1,024 eighth great-grandparents
2,048 ninth great-grandparents
For you to be born today from 12 previous generations, you needed a total sum of 4,094 ancestors over the last 400 years.
Think for a moment – How many struggles? How many battles? How many difficulties? How much sadness? How much happiness? How many love stories? How many expressions of hope for the future? – did your ancestors have to undergo for you to exist in this present moment…
“I believe that we, that this planet, hasn't seen its Golden Age. Everybody says its finished ... art's finished, rock and roll is dead, God is dead. Fuck that! This is my chance in the world. I didn't live back there in Mesopotamia, I wasn't there in the Garden of Eden, I wasn't there with Emperor Han, I'm right here right now and I want now to be the Golden Age ...if only each generation would realise that the time for greatness is right now when they're alive ... the time to flower is now.” -Patti Smith