Embracing your evolution leads to profound changes. The depth of your healing and growth is primarily revealed through the transformation of your behavior. It is also apparent in the decreased feeling of tension in your body and an emergence of tranquility in the way you move through life. The innermost change is that your mind feels less like a turbulent storm and your symphony of emotions spends more time ranging between peace and empowerment. There is nothing flawless about the period of your life that starts after you completely accept responsibility for your evolution – there are still hard moments, setbacks, massive challenges, hard decisions and heavy emotions that will pass through you. Even so, there is a slow change that manifests in your vibration, your energy starts emitting with a brighter radiance and eventually you will see that these positive changes are becoming your new normal.
“Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. I use the word "love" here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of grace - not in the infantile American sense of being made happy but in the tough and universal sense of quest and daring and growth.”
James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time
“Not everyone we connect with is going to be able to reciprocate our love. Sometimes we are ready and another person is not. Sometimes we choose someone and they cannot choose us back… And that is okay. You have to understand that that is okay…Someone’s inability to choose me is not a reflection of me, or my value, or my worth. However, it is also not something I need to grip at and dissect and turn into pain.
Sometimes life weathers people in different ways. We are all on this earth just trying to figure ourselves out. Just trying to mend the breaks in our souls, just trying to deal with what is heavy within us.
Sometimes we are ready and another person is not. Sometimes we try and another person does not. Sometimes we put ourselves into another human being and they cannot contain all that we are…Sometimes we choose to make things work and another person decides that they cannot choose that same reality and that is okay.
Because at the end of the day if someone does not meet you where you are, you cannot keep asking them to do so. If someone cannot reciprocate your love, if someone cannot give you what you truly deserve, you have to understand that aching them to do so before they are ready, is a form of self-destruction…You have to let this person grow on their own terms because you cannot love someone into their potential. You cannot love someone into being ready — they have to do that on their own.”
— Bianca Sparacino