“ so Carol learned that even though her on verbalized anger was painful it provided her with recognition in a kind of uniqueness” - middle child
“ The less dependent she feels the fewer demands she puts on her friends who support her and be what she wants them to be”￼ -dependence on validation
If I give you negative but valid constructive criticism about our friendship and how we’re treating each other .
And then you respond with defensive commentary and behavior as if I’m attacking you by addressing what actions you did made me uncomfortable or upset …
Then we’re not made to be friends right now because it doesn’t matter what I say you truly don’t give a fuck in my opinion
A person who values a friendship or relationship is going to hear you out and then respond in the best way they can as maturely as they can.
They don’t respond as if like y’all beefing…
That’s not wussup
I’m glad we could communicate about our different point of views on “ relationships - soulmates- monogamy- polygamy- love” from our past relationships and what we are expecting from ourselves and others in the future
the standard gets higher each individual each experience each encounter
Within friendships and definitely intimate relationships
Sometimes I feel like people aren’t ready for additional intimacy or relationships to you because they still have unsettled scores open relationships they haven’t closed with people prior to you being with them
They have people that mean something completely different to them then you mean to them.
And that’s fair but idk