"If we let ourselves be caught up in the discussion of self-care we are missing the whole point of Healing Justice (HJ) work...We need to move the self-care conversation into community care. We need to move the conversation from individual to collective. From independent to interdependent. Too often self-care in our organizational cultures gets translated to our individual responsibility to leave work early, go home- alone- and go take a bath, go to the gym, eat some food and go to sleep. So we do all of that “self-care” to return to organizational cultures where we reproduce the systems we are trying to break... Self-care, as it is framed now, leaves us in danger of being isolated in our struggle and our healing. Isolation of yet another person, another injustice, is a notch in the belt of Oppression. A liberatory care practice is one in which we move beyond self-care into caring for each other. You shouldn’t have to do this alone."
Yashna Maya Padamsee, “Communities of Care, Organizations for Liberation" (2011).
J said, You don’t believe in God? And I said,
No. I believe in this connection we all have
to nature, to each other, to the universe.
And she said, Yeah, God.
how [do] we feel when we exchange, and ultimately, what is the meaning and purpose of our togetherness?
how have we learned to love, and does it actually work? it's become clear to me in relationships that the proclamation becomes less important than the inquiry. to use some bachelor nation language, can i see myself falling in love with you? am i in love with you? do i love you? those questions become: do you feel loved in this moment? do you feel loved by me? when i feel i love you and i present x, y, or z stimuli as an expression or labor of that love, does it reach you? what is the feeling of my love and how, when, and where can it support you in becoming?
— Mandy Harris Williams
You know, when I start telling you something by saying, ‘I was thinking about what you said about …,’ it always gives me pleasure to say that, to let you know that I was brooding on your words. And I think the pleasure is … well, I know how much I love it when you say ‘I was thinking about what you said about …’ It’s somehow as though the part of you that’s in me will be able to nourish the part of me that’s in you, or-something-I don’t know how to put it. But that there’s some circuit of reciprocity between these holding relations: your ability to hold me inside you, and mine to hold you inside me.
∆ Eve Sedgwick, A Dialogue on Love
"I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me. And I want someone to share me, with me" - Eartha Kitt