In 1978 Murakami was in the bleachers of Jingu Stadium watching a baseball game between the Yakult Swallows and the Hiroshima Carp when Dave Hilton, an American, came to bat. According to an oft-repeated story, in the instant that he hit a double, Murakami suddenly realized that he could write a novel. He went home and began writing that night.
does a gardener only water their flowers after they've bloomed? does a farmer only tend to their crops once they've shown fruit?
so why do you believe you should only write once you've got something to say? why do you only draw once you've got an idea?
if you really want to grow your craft, tend to it faithfully, and not just when you've got the inspiration or motivation to do so.
just as a flower only grows after it's been watered, the words you want to say will arrive after you start writing, the idea will arrive after you start drawing—inspiration will arrive after you start working.
Together we must move like waves. Have you observed the ocean? The waves are not the same over and over - each one is unique and responsive. The goal is not to repeat each other's morion, but to respond in whatever way feels right in your body. The waves we create are both continuous and a one-time occurrence. We must notice what it takes to respond well. How it feels to be in a body, in a whole - separate, aligned, cohesive. Critically connected.
Strive to balance your basic needs: A large number of studies have confirmed that humans across cultures have a need for autonomy, competence, relatedness, security, and self-esteem.
Set and make efficient progress toward self-concordant goals: It's important that you feel as though your self is constantly in steady forward motion. It's important that the goals that you set have high "self-concordance". People with high self-concordant goals have identified goals that are consistent with their identity, basic needs, personality, and talents.
Choose your goals and social roles wisely: Setting extrinsic goals (such as money, beauty and status) tend to make you less happy, whereas attaining intrinsic goals (such as intimacy, community, and personal growth) tend to lead to enhanced well-being (see here). It's also important to choose social roles that best fit your unique personality.
Strive toward personality integration: Integrated people also reported higher levels of self-esteem, openness to new experiences, vitality, satisfaction with life, self-actualization, positive moods, and fewer negative moods.
Work toward modifying problematic aspects of yourself or your world: Not all of our potentialities will help us make progress toward our self-concordant goals. Some aspects of our personality, like anxiety or disagreeableness, can downright get in the way of making progress toward becoming an optimal human. So the advice here is to not mindlessly accommodate your entire nature, but work on bringing out the character strengths and virtues that will best help you achieve your self-concordant goals.
Take responsibility for your goals and choices: After making a decision about which goal you wish to adopt, embrace the goal with all of your being, and consciously align your identity with the goal.
Listen to your "organismic valuing process" and be prepared to change your goals if it seems necessary: The path toward becoming a fully functioning person requires developing increasing trust in your own ability to know what is important to you, and what is essential for you to live a more fulfilling life. People tend to move toward intrinsic goals (e.g., emotional intimacy, personal growth, societal contribution) and/or away from extrinsic goals (e.g., material possessions, physical attractiveness, social popularity) over an extended period of time. Bottom line: trust yourself to abandon a goal if it is no longer appropriate for your growth.
Transcend your self: Self-actualization is possible only as a side-effect of self-transcendence. Integrate yourself into the larger social systems in which you are embedded. Don't just search for things that are useful to you, but be useful to others.
"I argue for a view of the self and of identity that is the opposite of the personal brand: an unstable, shapeshifting thing determined by interactions with others and with different kinds of places."
"learn how to master your vibe so that wherever you go you are you, as opposed to falling into other people's patterns that bring out old behaviours that you are no longer trying to repeat."