Most psychopaths, and I am speaking about the vast majority, are living completely normal lives.
I do. I work, have a Significant Other and have for over two decades, have pets, and no one who isn’t aware that I am a psychopath has any clue that I might be remotely different than they are.
I have written a pretty decent body of work talking about my life and how it works with other people, and you can find those through my profile, but to answer this in the simplest of terms, yes, and most do exactly that.
Not even close.
People have this nonsense view of psychopaths peeking around every corner and pulling the levers of the world, but guess what neurotypicals that are looking to project all their shortcomings, failures, power hunger, and overall nasty deeds on psychopaths?
The vast majority of those people that you love to call psychopathic are neurotypical, and most of the “behaviors” you assign to psychopaths are simply the actions of normative neurotypicals.
It’s very convenient to pretend and convince yourself that it’s those “nefarious psychopaths”, but the reality is that the largest concentration of psychopathic traits are in CEOs.
You might think, “See! Told you! Psychopaths run everything and are in positions of financial power! You just lied to us!!!”
You know what the percentage of CEOs (again, the largest number of individuals that are high in psychopathic traits) are actually high on that scale?
You read that right. The largest number of individuals that are high in psychopathic traits, and let me stress, that does not equate not psychopathy, is six percent.
The rest, you know that other ninety-four percent? Most of them are you guys. So if you are looking to lay the blame at someone's feet, you don’t even have to leave the house.
No. That would be sadists, not psychopaths.
Psychopaths do no care about other people. I don’t care to help them, I don’t care to harm them. For the most part, save for necessary interactions, or things that I want or enjoy, I do not want to deal with other people at all.
People think that we like hurting people because they think that we get some joy out of withholding the things they hold so dear such as attention, affection, and empathy. The fact is, we do not have a need or desire for any of those things, so any of it you get from us is an accommodation, not something that we have any interest in providing.
Is that mean? Nope. It simply is what it is. When I am invested in someone I not only have no interest in harming them, I will also make it a point to do what is required of me to keep them in my life.
If you are someone that I am not invested in, not only do I have no interest in harming you, I also have no interest in you. If that causes hurt feelings, that would be a ‘you’ problem, not a ‘me’ problem.
No empathy, no reason to give care to your suffering. As I said, that is a ‘you’ problem. By that same token, I do not want, nor do I need your attentions, accommodations, or your concern. As much as I do not care about you, I would appreciate that same level of concern for me. My life, my business.
For some reason our lack of giving a crap about others is misconstrued into liking to cause harm. Not remotely true, we just don’t care about what we consider things that do not concern us.